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Getting Listed so the County Can Speak with You

Workers often cannot discuss a file with an adult child until that is in writing. How to ask for the local authorization step.

About 4 minutes to read. Based on CDSS and DHCS public program pages retrieved 2026-09-13. County offices apply these rules. Hourly rates, hour totals, and wait times are local and change.

Short answer

County IHSS workers often cannot discuss a parent’s file with an adult child until the recipient puts that permission in writing. Ask the local office which authorization they use, who must sign it, and where to return it. Listing lets them speak with you. It does not make you the decision-maker on hours.

Who decides

Your parent decides whom the county may speak with. The county IHSS office tells you which local form or note they accept. Medi-Cal may use a separate release for the coverage file.

What to do next

Call or write the county IHSS office on the CDSS county list, ask how an adult child is listed as a contact, and keep a dated copy of whatever your parent signs.

Why the worker goes quiet on the phone

You may have filled every page and driven to the clinic for SOC 873. The file can still be closed to you. County staff protect recipient information. If your parent has not authorized a conversation with you, the worker may confirm nothing useful. That is ordinary procedure, not a judgment about your family.

Ask for the listing step as soon as you know you will be the person returning calls. Do it while your parent can review the page. Waiting until a notice arrives makes the next callback harder. The families page includes this on the adult-child list for that reason.

Ask the local office for their authorization step

Counties do not all use the same sheet. Some use a release on the application. Some use a separate contact form. Some accept a signed note that names you and says what you may hear. Use the CDSS county IHSS office list and ask that office, not a statewide rumor.

  1. Find the IHSS office for the county where your parent lives.
  2. Ask how an adult child is listed so staff can discuss the case.
  3. Ask whether Medi-Cal needs a separate release.
  4. Ask where to return the signed page and how you will know it is on file.
  5. Keep a dated copy with the rest of the packet. See tracking paperwork.

Talking to the county office covers what is reasonable to ask on a first call. Written follow-up helps when names and case numbers matter.

See if IHSS may apply

A coordinator can walk through Medi-Cal, county forms, and the home visit with you. The county still decides eligibility and hours.

For example: starting an IHSS application, provider enrollment, or county forms. Keep medical records and diagnoses for the county packet.

What listing does, and what it does not do

Listing usually lets the county share case status, missing pages, visit scheduling, and notice questions with you. It does not let you authorize hours. It does not enroll you as the provider. It does not replace your parent as the employer of the individual provider. Those roles stay separate on purpose.

  • Listed contact: information the county is allowed to share
  • Applicant and recipient: your parent, who remains the person on the case
  • Provider: the person who finishes enrollment and records authorized time
  • Employer: generally the recipient, who hires and can end the provider relationship

If you will also give the care, finish provider enrollment on its own track. If several siblings want updates, name one listed contact and share notes inside the family. Coordinating siblings keeps the county from hearing three versions of who is “the” child.

Put the request in writing when you can

A phone call can tell you which page to use. A signed page is what staff can file. Include your parent’s name as it appears on Medi-Cal, the case number if you have one, your name, your relationship, and a way to reach you. Ask whether they want you named for IHSS only or for related Medi-Cal questions as well.

If your parent later wants to change who may be called, ask the same office how to update the file. Moves, new providers, and new contacts are local file edits. Moving counties is a different step if the home itself changes counties.

Keep this page with the rest of the packet

The listing page is easy to lose because it is not SOC 295 or SOC 873. File it with those forms. When a worker says they cannot speak with you, you can send the dated copy rather than starting the explanation over. If you want help keeping contacts and forms in one place, ask for help. California Home Help helps families navigate that paperwork. The county still decides the case.

Questions people ask

Is being listed the same as being the provider?
No. A listed contact can receive case information the county is allowed to share. The provider is the person who does authorized tasks after enrollment. You can be one, both, or neither.
Can the county talk to me if I just say I am the daughter?
Often no. Relationship alone is usually not enough. Ask for the written step they use. Until that is on file, expect them to speak only with the recipient.
Does one listing cover Medi-Cal and IHSS?
Not always. IHSS and Medi-Cal can be different units. Ask each office whether they need their own release.
What if my parent cannot sign?
Ask the county which authority they accept, such as a conservator or another document they already use. Do not invent a signature workaround.

Related pages on California Home Help

Ask for help navigating care for a parent

Share a few details if you want help organizing IHSS paperwork so a parent can stay home. This form is for follow-up contact, not an eligibility decision. Your county IHSS office and Medi-Cal decide the case.

  • A coordinator follows up
  • County decides eligibility
  • You can stop anytime
  • Educational help

For example: starting an IHSS application, provider enrollment, or county forms. Keep medical records and diagnoses for the county packet.

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